C is for Coaching. It probably seems a little self-serving, since I’m a financial coach. While I do think that more should seek out services like mine, the truth is we each should have somebody in our life that we trust to guide and urge us on to be better, especially in the area of money. Sadly, too few of us do.
For some reason, our money – more than almost any other issue in our lives – is not to be discussed with other people. It’s taboo. We talk about personal relationship issues, health issues, spiritual issues, addictions to pornography and drugs, but we don’t talk about money.
– Russ Crosson, The Truth About Money Lies.
So, how do you find a money coach?
- Think about your money. How are you struggling? What do you want to change? Coaches can only help you make progress if you’ve thought about the direction you’re trying to go.
- Speak up about it. Being open about your need gives others the opportunity to bless you with options you might not have been aware of.
- Learn more. We’re living in an age of information. Take advantage of books, videos, and podcasts. Find out what kinds of money management classes and seminars are being offered in your area. Also, read the Bible. The books of Proverbs and the teachings of Jesus are full of valuable lessons about money.
- Act. The more you expose yourself to sound money principles, and the more you surround yourself with like-minded people, the sooner you’ll find a coach. Maybe it’s that millionaire that looks nothing like a millionaire – or the teacher of the money management class you’re taking – or a pastor. Buy them lunch, and ask for help.
You might decide that hiring a financial coach is your best answer. It’s worth paying to get results because your heart follows your money. If you spend it on knowledge and accountability, then you’ll put your heart into it.
Where do you go for great money advice? And who’s holding you accountable with your saving and spending? Anyone have a good word for Z? Let me know in the comments below!
B is for Bondage. Nothing ties up your income and locks up your dreams more than the bondage of debt. If you want to turn your finances around, escaping those chains must be a priority.
Truths about debt:
- Debt is a product being sold. Credit is the most aggressively marketed product in the country. Remember that “Life takes VISA” is an ad slogan, not a fact.
- Debt limits options. Lenders must be paid. Any job that covers all of those bills is a requirement, no matter what. And an underwater mortgage can turn a home into a prison.
- Debt increases risk. Being able to pay today doesn’t guarantee tomorrow. Failure to repay leads to threats and legal action, and can result in losses of property and wages.
How to escape:
- Get intense. You can’t passively drift out of debt. Escaping requires passion. It’s time to get angry. It’s time to get focused.
- Get intentional. You have to drive every dollar you bring in towards a purpose. Make a plan for your income. Write it down.
- Stop borrowing. No more new debt. Draw the line here, and get ready to fight.
What do you think? Are you living without debt? How did you escape? What should be my word for Q? Let me know in the comments below!
I’m starting a new series of posts today. I’m calling it the “ABCs of Personal Finance.” The word for the letter A is Action, because succeeding with money in your home requires action. Your financial situation isn’t going to get any better while you sit idly by and ignore it. So, it’s time to get moving and make some changes. Ready?
- INCOME – GET TO WORK. Everything worth doing is going to be hard and take a lot of effort. If you want a career that gives you a sense of purpose and pays you well, you’re going to have to take action.
- Truth: Any job that you can get with a 10 minute interview in a booth at a fast food restaurant is unlikely to pay a lot, and will never be a great career. If you want a bigger paycheck, you have to make yourself more appealing to better employers, and that takes work.
- First Step: Start Reading. Read books written by the best in the business you want to be in. Read classic business books. Read books about how to get a better job.
- BUDGET – MAKE A PLAN. Having any income is great, but paychecks have a nasty tendency of looking bigger than they actually are, and spending more than we make has become a national crisis. Planning is an essential part of winning. Even if this month’s budget fails, you learn and fix what failed next month. If you’re not budgeting, you’ve robbed yourself of that opportunity to improve. Take action and give every dollar you make a purpose.
- First Step: Write out your necessities. Know the difference between “need to pay” and “nice to have.”
- GROW – SET GOALS. Once the income is coming in and the bills are all covered, it’s tempting to breathe easy and relax. That might work, if all you ever want to do is just cover the bills. If you have bigger dreams, if you ever want something more than what you have right now, you have to make conscious decisions about how to get there and set some goals. You have to take action.
- First Step: Answer this question: What would you do if someone handed you a million dollars?
- FIGHT – DON’T GIVE UP. Remember, everything worth doing will be hard and take a lot of effort. It’s going to be tough, but as long as you’re breathing, there is always hope.
- That job may be all you can get right now, but it’s not forever.
- That budget may be so tight it scares you, but it’s a start.
- That goal may seem so out of reach, but you’re still growing.
What do you think? What parts of your finances could use a little less conversation and a little more action? Did I cover it all or miss something important? And what should be my word for X? Let me know in the comments below!
Sitting down to write your first family budget can feel overwhelming. Like you’re attacking a wall of expenses.
Facing a wild mix and match pile of costs like that, and feeling sure that you haven’t even thought of all of them, can make most normal people stop, drop their pencil, and walk away. Let me tell you, I have been there and I understand. You have my sympathy.
As a financial coach, though, I’m not going to let it end there. You have a responsibility to manage your money, and ignoring that is just going to make things worse. Walking away is not a realistic option. You need to scale that wall, climb that pile, and overcome your fears and frustrations about budgeting.
Like any problem that seems overwhelming, the answer is breaking it up into smaller steps.
Step 1: Determine Your Income. For most of the
five people reading this, that’ll be easy. A fixed, regular income is still pretty common. How many paychecks are you going to receive in the next month? Total those up, write down the number, and label it “INCOME.” Done.
If you’re one of the lucky few who receives an irregular income, this seems like more of a challenge, but you can’t skip this step. The best general advice I have is to take your worst average month’s income and use that as a baseline to budget from. If more comes in, excellent! You can put it to use in one of the next steps.
We can’t spend more than we have coming in, and we need to put every dollar to work, starting with…
Step 2: Pay for Your Necessities. Your first priority is to take care of those things that keep your household functioning. I’ve covered this ground before, in explicit detail, so I won’t spend a lot more time on it. The big point of this step, though, is to make sure that you have enough income to cover the basics, and see for yourself how much is left over once those basics are covered. In most cases, that margin way bigger than you’d think.
Step 3: List Your Goals. What is it that you want to do with your money? What’s on the top of your list? Do you want to pay off debts? Save up a cushion for emergencies? Invest for the future? Build up a college fund? Go on a huge vacation? I know the order that I’d advise you to do them in, but ultimately you get to make the decision. So, pick one.
You’ll be using the margin you have from Step 2 to fund this goal (including any unexpected irregular income), but you have one more step before you’re ready to go…
Step 4: Say “No” Everywhere You Can. That big goal, and all of those necessities, probably didn’t account for every expense in that massive wall from before. For everything that’s left, you have to ask yourself this question: “This month, is this thing more important than reaching my goal?” For a lot of items, the answer will be a frustrating “Yes.” For example, you might find that the pets get a little bitey if you don’t feed them often enough. Not to mention that your children do need new clothes now and then. And it’s really hard to say “No” to debt payments.
Still, there will be a bunch of things you can say “No” to. Like Cable TV, or eating out. Plus, it gives you the chance to take a hard look at how much you’re spending on those “Yes” items. Maybe your kid doesn’t need new school clothes from the mall. Who knows? You might even find a few ways to cut back on your necessities.
By now, you should have a budget that works for the upcoming month. Finally, you get to…
Step 5: Do It Again Next Month. There is no such thing as the perfect budget. Every month is different, and every month’s budget should reflect that. Each time you sit down with a pencil and write it out, you give yourself the opportunity to learn from mistakes and develop good spending habits.
This isn’t a one time deal. It’s a lifetime deal.
What do you think? Did I skip a step? Let me know in the comments below!