A Bodey in Motion

Building momentum, one step at a time

Quick Hits of the Week

  • Comfort is a big idol in our home. A lot of the decisions I’ve made have been swayed by how uncomfortable the choices were going to be. That meant our home was uninviting for a long time, because I don’t like to be surrounded with a lot of people or noise. It also meant that I avoided opportunities to lead others, because I’m uncomfortable being responsible for anyone other than myself. Of course, that meant that I missed out on a number of chances to grow and learn and find purpose in my life, because the really important things in life all happen when you’re outside of your comfort zone, and Michael Hyatt wants to encourage all of us to visit there more frequently. So next time a tough decision comes up, I need to be willing to choose the option that makes me the least comfortable. You should, too.
  • We only have a television to watch an occasional movie or to play the Wii, so we don’t have cable and we don’t use an antenna. (An antenna? Really? Are we back in the 80’s?) That means we haven’t watched any of this year’s  Olympic games. Even so, there is no way I could have missed Michael Phelps huge achievement. Fact: He’s earned one medal more than Argentina has in its 112-year Olympic history. Want to know more? Here are 21 other astonishing facts about this astonishing young man and his 22 medals.
  • Based on what I’ve read so far, I find myself liking Anaheim Mayor Tom Tait. He seems like a stand-up guy who is actually working to change the culture of the Anaheim city government in such a way that encourages kindness, service and freedom. He and Newark Mayor Cory Booker should get together and create a how-to series on city leadership. Unfortunately, Mayor Tait’s efforts don’t appear to have filtered down to the Anaheim PD quickly enough. It will be interesting to see his short-term and long-term responses to the situation surrounding the protests. I pray that he finds the wisdom and courage he needs as he goes forward.
  • Allow me to be mean for a few seconds here. I want you to take a few moments and really evaluate the friends that you spend the most time with. Are they the kind of people that you want to be like, or are they just a bunch of losers that are fun to be around? You will be the average of your five closest friends, so it’s important that you’re spending time with the right people. Think about your life as an exclusive club. The people and activities you let past the red velvet rope at the door need to be helping you set the atmosphere you want inside. Keep the negative influences out, and implement strategies to bounce them out when they sneak in. Kick the losers out like Dalton at the Double Deuce.

Is there something valuable or important or cool or funny or weird or awesome out there I missed this week? I can’t hit it all, but you should let me know about it by dropping me a line or sharing it in the comments below! I’d appreciate the heads up. First person to identify the movie reference above will receive an official Bodey-Bonus-Buck worth absolutely nothing, and my gratitude for actually paying attention. Thanks.

August 9, 2012 Posted by | Quick Hits and Links | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Comments Off on Quick Hits of the Week

Go Pro

The number one cause of flat tires in my household? Nails jammed in the tread.

I’m really bad about driving the tires on my car until they are as bald as the head of Charles Xavier. I know it’s generally unsafe to do, but I hate having to replace stuff before I’ve used it through it’s full potential (and then some). I’m kind of cheap that way.

That having been said, you can imagine how frustrated I get when I walk out to my car and find a flat tire. What a pain in the butt. That’s never a good thing.

Of course, it used to be worse. Back before we took control of our finances, a flat tire meant the added joy of money stress. Would they be able to fix the leak, or would we have to replace the tire? Where would the money come for that? Did we have enough cash or are we going to put it on the credit card and pay it off with interest over the next three months? More often than not, it’d go on the card.

There’s no money stress today, though. No credit card, either.

So, what changed?

Hint: it wasn’t a bigger salary. I learned a long time ago that you can’t out-earn stupid behavior.

No, the difference is that today we have a plan. We save for car maintenance, like flat tires. We save for a lot of things, and we do that because we have important things we want to do with our money. We want to save for the future and we want to give generously. Not tying up our money with payments, paying back interest on unforeseen purchases, allows us to do those things with consistency.

In other words, we went from reacting with money to being proactive. We stopped letting our money problems happen to us, and instead began happening to our money.

Reactive people are driven by feelings, by circumstances, by conditions, by their environment. Proactive people are driven by values-carefully thought about, selected and internalized values.

Stephen Covey, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

This is true for a lot of things in our lives. Whenever we let external factors control us, we abdicate responsibility for the results of those decisions. For example, if we forgo regular rest in a vain attempt to maximize our time and get everything done that we “should be doing” then we’re giving power over our health and productivity to that list that we feel the world has placed on us. Ultimately, however, the consequences of the failure to act upon our time (or money, or tires, etc.) with wisdom and maturity falls directly on us.

Until a person can say deeply and honestly, “I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday,” that person cannot say, “I choose otherwise.”

Stephen Covey, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

If there is an area of your life that been out of control, then you need to start to act upon it. Seek out help and advice if you need to, but take control back. Stop reacting. It’s time to go pro.

July 30, 2012 Posted by | Past and Future, Work and Money | , , , , , , , | Comments Off on Go Pro