A Bodey in Motion

Building momentum, one step at a time

Quick Hits: Hustle and have goals, not expectations. Not about the platform. Wearable technology.

  • BOOMI’ve dipped my toe into a bit of self-employment in the past. I got hooked up with a partner, provided some start-up capital, created a product, and we were ready to go. Of course, that didn’t work out as well as we hoped, but it gave me the chance to learn a lot about failure. One of the reasons we failed was that we didn’t understand how much hustle was needed to make a business work, so it didn’t happen. Another reason was that we had expectations of success, but we hadn’t set any real goals to get there. You can’t just build it once and expect them to come. You have to keep building it every day.
  • As I continue to pursue my crazy vision, I’d love to see the platform that I share it from grow. I want the opportunity to tell more and more people how good money management frees you up to answer callings, chase dreams, and change the world, and I know I can’t do that sitting in my living room. Honestly, though, I’m scared of recognition, no matter how small, because I’m scared of pride. I don’t want it to be about building a big platform around me. I want it to be about serving people, and serving my God. He doesn’t need me to have a big platform to change the world.

May 6, 2013 Posted by | Quick Hits and Links | , , , , , , , , , , , , | Comments Off on Quick Hits: Hustle and have goals, not expectations. Not about the platform. Wearable technology.

Quick Hits of the Week

Is there something valuable or important or cool or funny or weird or awesome out there I missed this week? I can’t hit it all, but you should let me know about it by dropping me a line or sharing it in the comments below! I’d appreciate the heads up.

January 3, 2013 Posted by | Quick Hits and Links | , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Forty-One

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Alright. Let’s do this.

For the first dozen years of my life, birthdays were pretty awesome things. You get to have as many friends as you want over. They all bring you presents. You get to eat cake and ice cream. What more could a kid want?

Over the past three decades since I was 12, though, I’ve grown more and more unwilling to share the “significance” of that day with the general public.

At first, it was the disappointment. After the age of 12, the grandeur of the day never seemed to live up to my sense of entitlement. It was, after all, my birthday. Why wasn’t it all going the way I wanted it too? I slowly came to understand that no matter how much I (or my family and friends) wanted to build the day up into something special for me, my birthday was really just another day. In hindsight, that seems like a giant “Duh!” but it was hard let go of my desire for a day that was all about me.

Later came the realization that, after a certain point, birthdays stop being an achievement or milestone, and just start being a reminder that you’re getting older. After the age of 21, everything that is legal is now an acceptable option to you. Sure, we talk about how the decade marks (30, 40, etc.) are big deals, but you aren’t granted any special status at those ages. Until you turn 65 (for now), all of your birthdays are just a celebration that you survived another year. Yip-a-dee-#&@$ing-do.

So, with each year, I became more and more reserved about it. By the time I turned thirty, I was positively mum. Apart from my family and a few close friends, very few people are aware when it occurs. I block it from appearing on social network sites and forums. A small family dinner is the only thing that really marks the occasion.

By now it should be pretty clear where I’m going with this. Today, April 30, is my birthday. And, having written all of that, why am I announcing it here for all five or six of you to read? Especially since it makes me feel so weirdly exposed?

Well, I’ve come to the conclusion that, like so many other things in my life, it’s time for a change. My reasons for obscuring this were pretty poor to start with, and continuing to do so would be allowing a toe-hold for isolation to remain. I don’t want that. I’m a better man when I’m not hiding.

It’s important for me to publicly and personally celebrate my birthday.

It has to be public, precisely because it isn’t all about me. By keeping it quiet, and forcing my wife and kids to do the same, I denied everyone else the opportunity to bless me. I’ve stolen from them moments to share in my life, to be generous to me, to show me love. Just as my disappointment came out of my selfishness, so did my withdrawal. By trying to avoid pain, I was depriving others of joy.

It has to be personal, precisely because each year is a milestone. Everyone has accepted January 1 as a universal day to reset and renew, if you will, but think about it. Your birthday is really your New Year’s Day. That’s the day when you should be setting goals for your next year. (I’ve got to give credit where it’s due, here. Zack over at BA Expat helped to clarify this for me.) I can choose to take time to reflect on the previous year, and plan for what I want to have done by my next birthday, so it stops being about age and starts being about growth.

So, yes, today is my birthday. Feel free to say something nice, and I’ll do my very best not to wince. No, you won’t see it on facebook or anywhere else (maybe next year). I’ll share my goals for the upcoming year in the next couple of weeks.

April 30, 2012 Posted by | Marriage and Family, Past and Future | , , , | 5 Comments

Resolutions

It’s the start of a new year, which means that it’s a time to make some resolutions. Making a written list of your goals and plans is a nice practice. It gives you a better chance of actually accomplishing them. Sharing them with others provides some accountability, which is even better.

Still, even if you’re doing those, there’s one more thing that you can do to give yourself the best chance for success with your resolutions. Sit down and write them out in October. Really. If you review them every week until the New Year, adding to them and modifying them as needed, you will be able to make the necessary decisions and begin planning so you can hit the ground running on January 1. Waiting until January puts you behind on your desired goals.

Here are my resolutions for 2011:

  • Pray daily with my family. This is the one thing that in my life that I will see implemented over all the rest. I’ve been too lax with my role as the spiritual head of my home in this area. We pray together at dinner, but that’s not the kind of leadership that being a husband and father requires. It’s my responsibility to bring my family to God. Making time specifically to pray with each of them, individually and as a whole, is what is really needed.
  • Become a Financial Peace University Coordinator. Dave Ramsey’s Total Money Makeover plan was pretty key in our family going from broke and frustrated to more financially secure than we have ever been. That influence has led me to read and learn more about career planning and personal finances in the last year than I ever thought was important to know about, and that’s made me want to reach out and  help others grow in the same way.
  • Read 20 books. That’s a pretty conservative number, actually. You could say that I have a stretch goal of 25 books, but I’m realistic. I’m one of those people who takes it one book at a time and reads every last word, but that might be changing. Getting the new Kindle for Christmas means that I can always have two or three books on hand easily. I’m going to try to polish off two (or more) books at a time, now.
  • Lose 20 pounds. I’m very hesitant to make this commitment. Here’s the deal: I’m pretty comfortable with my weight and my body. I’ve never had the drive to count calories and stop eating food I enjoy. Still, I know that I need to get more intentional about exercising regularly. If I do that (and say no to some of the between meal snacks) I should be able to shed some unnecessary weight.
  • Write 100 blog posts. I’m officially committing to continuing this experiment. Last year, I wound up writing just over one post a week from the date of inception on. (Yes, I realize it required a hard push at the end, what’s your point?) I don’t see any reason why I can’t double that this coming year.

I have a few others, but they’re more private and not appropriate for the entire Interweb to read. Also, I’m going to continue to maintain a lot of the good habits developed in 2010, but I don’t see a need to list, for example, “Write a budget every month.” or “Date my wife.” because I want my resolutions to be about new developments and improvements.

As always, feel free to ask me how I’m doing on these goals. I’m always open to being held accountable. Feel free to share your thoughts, or what your plans are for the new year in the comments below. Have a happy New Year!

January 1, 2011 Posted by | Past and Future | , , , , , , | Comments Off on Resolutions