A Bodey in Motion

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Having the “Talk”

I don’t really remember exactly how I let it happen. All I know was that I was driving home with my oldest daughter, talking about this and that as we often do when we’re alone. Somehow the this and the that lead to her asking me a question that would change everything.

“Why do women have vaginas?”

Crud.

Wriggle your way out of that one, Mom. (Click for more.)

I was stuck, because my daughter was aware that she had asked something big, and there was no way she was letting me out of it.

Mind you, I knew that this conversation was coming eventually, but I really wanted to pawn it off on my wife. She has the biology degree, y’know. She would be far more clinical and careful. I should have known better, though. Trying to dump responsibility on my wife never goes well for me.

So, off I went. As soon as we got home, I pulled her and her brother aside and we wound our way through it all.

Anatomy. Intercourse. Menstruation. Pregnancy. Childbirth.

We talked about being appropriate, mistakes you can make, and the dangers of being irresponsible.

My wife has a gay brother in a committed relationship, so we even talked some about homosexuality.

It wasn’t a short conversation, and the kids walked away feeling both satisfied and horrified. They have a basic enough understanding now to know what’s coming, though, and we now have the opportunity to talk with them honestly about it whenever it comes up (and it has).

The sex “talk” is difficult, but ultimately beneficial for both you and your children.

So, I’ve shared all of that to ask you this:

Have you had the money “talk” with your kids?

In our culture, we’ve become more comfortable discussing sex, even with our children, than we are about discussing money. Whether it’s successes or struggles, there is a sense of taboo around sharing our financial lives except in the most intimate of relationships (and maybe not even then).

The problem is, as important as an honest sex talk is, an honest money talk is a hundred times more so. Our lives aren’t all about our money, but money touches every part of our lives. Money is life fuel. Sex can’t make that claim.

So, you have to wind your way through all the details.

Income. Saving. Spending. Debt. Investing.

How to act appropriately with money, the mistakes you can make, and the dangers of being irresponsible.

If you don’t think you know enough to have the “talk” with your kids, then it’s time to learn. Take a class. Read a few books about home finances. Just so you can have the opportunity to talk with them honestly about it. It might be difficult, but it will be totally worth it. For both you and your kids.

September 3, 2013 Posted by | Marriage and Family, Work and Money | , , , , , | 2 Comments

Quick Hits of the Week

  • The shooting at the Dark Knight Rises premiere happened almost two weeks ago, but I wanted to share one of the stories that I read about that really impressed me. Pierce O’Farrill was shot three times in Aurora, once with each of the shooter’s guns. He was interviewed by a local radio host just three days after the incident, and he had the following things to say: First, he forgives the shooter, and wants to talk to him. Second, he doesn’t think that the shooter should be given the death penalty. Finally, he’s still a staunch proponent of Second Amendment rights, despite what happened to him. Talk about sticking to your values under extreme pressure. Well done, Mr. O’Farrill. I hope more people remember your name than the sociopath who hurt you.
  • You may have noticed, if you’ve gone back through the archives, that a lot of the images I had used previously have been removed. I’ve only kept the pictures I’ve taken personally, or covers of books I’ve reviewed. I liked the other images I’d chosen, but in all honesty I didn’t do a good job of making sure that they were legally alright to use. Recently, that lack of care bit a blogger in the butt big time, and I don’t think it’s responsible of me to risk putting my family in a similar predicament if all six of you start sharing this blog and it becomes wildly popular. I’m already replacing the images removed with equally good works from the public domain or licensed free through Creative Commons, so the loss is only temporary. I would like to say something to the artists and photographers out there, though. Protecting your product doesn’t make you wealthy, growing a dedicated group of supportive followers does. Be careful which you are spending the bulk of your time on.
  • Have you ever looked at your iPhone and said, “Man, I wish I could attach Legos to this thing. That would be so cool!” Well, that day has finally come. Go get yourself a TinkerBrick case. It makes me want to get an iPhone.

Is there something valuable or important or cool or funny or weird or awesome out there I missed this week? I can’t hit it all, but you should let me know about it by dropping me a line or sharing it in the comments below! I’d appreciate the heads up.

August 2, 2012 Posted by | Quick Hits and Links | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Comments Off on Quick Hits of the Week

Quick Hits of the Week

  • If you’re employed, what is it exactly that you do? Do you build widgets? Do you sell stuff? How would you describe your everyday work? Now, here’s the important question: How is your everyday work serving people? Dan Rockwell wants us to remember that the only reason we’re in business is to serve. If you can’t immediately see how the work you do serves others, then you need to take some time and figure it out. More importantly, if you can’t figure out how your work serves others, then you need to find work that does.
  • In the last couple of months, we’ve lost Sheriff Taylor,  Lt. Commander McHale, and Corporal Newkirk. That also means that we’ve lost Ben Matlock (Atlanta’s greatest criminal defense attorney), Dominic Santini (co-pilot of human civilization’s crowning achievement), and the most kissy-faced game-show host ever. I don’t like focusing on death, but it’s hard not to take note of the passing of television legends like these.
  • I’m a big fan of individuals creating and innovating. Looking at old materials in new ways, or putting a fresh spin on an old concept. So, it makes sense that the work being done by UpCycle Living would get my attention. Taking shipping-crates and turning them into affordable homes. Providing relief for Haiti. Not to mention, making a splash right in my own city. The engineer in me is busy assembling shipping-crates into different configurations in my head to see what kind of weird but interesting home designs could be created. The burgeoning financial coach in me wants to warn you not to buy one unless you are dead set on making a statement instead of an investment. These are a niche market with the potential resale value of a mobile home. I still liked them on Facebook, though.

Is there something valuable or important or cool or funny or weird or awesome out there I missed this week? I can’t hit it all, but you should let me know about it by dropping me a line or sharing it in the comments below! I’d appreciate the heads up.

July 12, 2012 Posted by | Quick Hits and Links | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment