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The Best Defense…

As a financial coach, one of my key responsibilities is to teach you, my client, strategies to overcome your financial troubles and to start succeeding with money. When that happens, it frees you to be more generous and more available to follow your dreams. When that happens in the lives of enough people, it can change the world, and I love being a part of that.

Not a place. Not a time. But a battle of wit and skill and strategy and little plastic playing pieces with numbers on...I'll come in again.But, I digress.

And I really just want to discuss that word strategy. It’s important. When you’re choosing a strategy, you are deciding on a plan of action, and developing tactics to fall back on when things don’t go according to that plan. Every winning strategy has two key components: Offense and defense.


This is your income. However it is that you go out and bring the money home is time spent on the offensive.

And we spend a lot of time and effort on the offensive.

We work long hours to earn overtime and get big bonuses.

We fight and negotiate for better raises and compensation.

If the money is good, we move into management. We might even change careers altogether.

There’s nothing wrong with having a great offense. In fact, without it, you’re not even in the game at all. You need to put forth your best effort if you want to succeed. Never sell yourself short when it comes to your income.

However, beware the opposite problem. You can’t spend all of your time and effort on the offense. There’s a common misconception that if you earn enough income, your money will take care of itself. That if your offense is good enough you can ignore your…


… and that’s a lie.

Your defense is all about your spending. How well you control every dollar leaving your home is time spent on the defensive.

And we don’t usually focus a lot of time or effort on the defensive. Spending still happens, because it has to, but we don’t like to think about the when, where, and why about each dollar that leaves.

Off the top of your head, do you know how much you spent on food last year? What about clothing?

How much do you annually spend on your electric bill? What about your mortgage payment?

How big a chunk of your yearly income do each one of those items take?

Being great on defense means not only knowing how much is going where, but also being careful and frugal when spending.

This is where I spend most of my time when coaching people. When a family is forced to come face to face with their poor spending habits and complete lack of defense, when they see how little they must have to survive, and how much is being wasted, they’re free to change. Their budget becomes the key to achieving goals and their ultimate success.

So, how’s your strategy? Is your offense hurting? There’s only so much you can cut before you have deal with your income. Don’t neglect your offense.

Is your defense in shambles? No matter how much you earn, you will always find ways to spend it if you don’t have a plan. You have to start making a budget. Don’t neglect your defense.

Questions: What’s your strategy? How’s your defense? Get political and think about how great your city government is on offense and defense. How could changing individual families habits affect the community you live in?

August 13, 2012 Posted by | Past and Future, Work and Money | , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Comments Off on The Best Defense…

Top Posts – Second Quarter 2012

Halfway through 2012. I’ve only missed one week since the start of the year, and that was because my house was under quarantine. Not bad, maybe I’ll grow up to be a half-decent blogger one day.

I’ve got a lot of exciting things in the works, so the next six months should be interesting. I’ll be doing my best to share it all here with the six of you as it happens.

For now here’s the list of the top five posts since the last time we did this:

July 10, 2012 Posted by | Top Posts | , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Get You What You Need

When my wife and I cleared away our debt and got control of our finances a couple of years ago, I never imagined that it would lead to us helping so many others do the same. Now I’m the guy who teaches Financial Peace University two or three times a year, and consumes money and finance and work and business books one after the other. Lately, I’ve had the opportunity to help a couple of different friends put together a cash flow plan for their home.

(Which is great , by the way. I love doing that. If you have questions about it, please feel free to get in touch with me.)

I’m not an expert on this (yet), but having worked through the process myself, and now with others, it’s helped me begin to firm up a handful of steps to take when you’re writing a monthly home budget.

First, you need to start tracking your monthly expenses as they stand right now. Doing that will firm up your numbers for your first run at a budget. It will also reveal where you’re grossly overspending. More on that in the future.

The next step is to identify your basic needs.

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In a perfect world, I wouldn’t have to explain what the word ‘need’ means. Apparently some of us are still confused by the term, though, so let me clarify. Your microwave is probably not a need. Your flat-screen TV definitely isn’t. Your car probably is. I define a basic need as something that keeps you breathing, safe, or productive.

Breathing: Food and (sometimes) medicine.

Safe: Shelter and basic utilities.

Productive: Transportation and communication.

Let’s not drill down on each of these individually, but just keep in mind that the idea is to keep the cost of your needs as reasonable as possible. So, food doesn’t mean eating out every week, and utilities doesn’t mean satellite service. You’re trying to discover margin in your budget, not gobble it up.

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Making sure that you’re covering your basic needs gives your budget a foundation to build on. It shows you that, no matter what else happens, you can keep the lights on, put food on the table, and stay employed. Any other money troubles you might have won’t seem quite as big when you aren’t struggling over the basics. It gives you room to think.

Every dollar earned above that foundation is then free to be used reaching financial goals (like getting out of debt and building wealth). You’re free to decide to stop living for right now, imagine where you could be in two (or five, or ten) years,  devise a plan, and accomplish something great. Take care of what you need so you’ve got the opportunity to have what you want.

Questions: How have you defined your needs? Do you clearly know what it takes to cover the basics every month? What do you think of my definition? Is a dishwasher a need? Leave a comment and let me know!

April 9, 2012 Posted by | Work and Money | , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

5 Tips for Writing a Good Home Budget

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Once I decided to become more involved with our finances and we set our family up with a plan to get out of debt, one of the first steps we had to take was to write a budget. It didn’t go so well. I made a bunch of mistakes setting up that first spreadsheet, and there was a lot of frustration over the next few months as we tried to make it work for us. Over the next year and a half, I learned a lot about crafting a budget that succeeds in my home. I’m not done learning, but here’s a few of the big stumbling blocks I can point out to you if you’re getting ready to head down the same path as us.

1. Understand the difference between a necessity and a luxury. This seems like it would be a big “duh,” but it took us a couple of tries to shave down the necessities to what was actually necessary. The list is a lot smaller than you first think. For our home it came down to these four items:

  • Food – Before anything else, you and your family needs to eat. When budgeting for groceries, we try to hit a target of $2.00 per meal or less. (And less is better. Like dance around and celebrate better. Yeah, we’re those kind of people.) Also, note that eating out at a restaurant is a luxury, and should be budgeted separately from groceries.
  • Utilities (Lights, Gas, Water) – The second most important thing you need to pay for is keeping the toilets flushing and the A/C on in the Summer. (We live in Southern AZ, where it hits 110 or more.) This varies from month to month, but it’s a good idea to keep your records and plan to pay about the same as you did last year, give or take 5%.
  • Shelter – I know some of you would put the rent or the mortgage at the top of the list, but we don’t. It’s important to keep your home current, but if the choice is between that and eating I’m going to choose my kids’ stomachs every time. Your home should cost you a predictable amount every month. By the way, home maintenance isn’t a necessity – except when it’s an emergency, but you should have a separate fund for that.
  • Transportation – Being able to get from point A to point B without concern is a necessity. For most of us, that means keeping our cars running. We budget three sub-items here: Fuel. Insurance/Fees. Maintenance. In that order. Unlike the house, car maintenance isn’t a luxury. Cars need regular oil changes. Tires wear down. You can’t afford to not have a small stack of cash set aside when a minor car repair is required.

Now, some of you might add a few more things to that list, and that’s your choice. Resist adding too much, though. Some add clothing and I can see that, but your flip-phone and television service are never going to be necessities, and (though I’m loathe to admit it) the Internet is a luxury, too.

2. Start over at the beginning of every month. This one was hard for me to accept. I kept trying to make the Super-Budget that would cover all possible expenses. After struggling, I realized these two realities.

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First, it is nigh-impossible to account for every little expenditure months in advance. It’s okay to plan ahead a few months for a looming expense, but that’s it.

Second, it drives my wife crazy. Even if you find that first reality silly, because you love tinkering with your budget, try to remember the other people involved. They’re not like you. They don’t like counting pennies for every future expense. The budget has to work for them, too.

So, before any money comes in, plan a budget for just that month. Pay for your necessities. Then your other expected expenses and savings. Then decide where the remaining money needs to go, based on what’s important that month.

3. Keep it simple. The monthly budget is a vision of how your money is going to be working for you over the next few weeks. Generally speaking, people don’t buy into complex visions. So, make the goals of your budget clear. Set up some broad expense categories with well-defined boundaries. Give yourself a way to review it in a couple of minutes, so you know where you stand. Doing this will make it easier for you and others to accept and follow your budget.

4. Work together. I’ve already covered this point a bit in a previous post but it’s worth touching on again. If you’re married, you have joined your lives, your bank accounts and your debts. The budget is something you should both agree upon and hold each other accountable to. The benefits from working together are totally worth the discomfort of figuring out how to do it, so do it.

While I’m here, let me address the single people. In one way you have it easy, because you get to avoid the struggling and compromising. You write the budget, and then you spend the budget. Go you. The problem you can have is with accountability. There’s no one on board with the plan to call you out when you’re not following the plan. If you find yourself having trouble with that, take the radical step of allowing someone to hold you accountable to your budget. You don’t have to marry them, honest.

5. Be prepared for it to fail. Now, why on earth would I tell you that? Because it happens. A lot.

Your budget is written, and it looks great. For the first two weeks, everything is fine. Then it happens. That thing that you were sure was due next month is actually due this month. Your son’s field trip is today and you forgot that he needs $20 for it. And why is the water bill so freaking high? Your great plan for the month may or may not be blown, but either way you have to adjust and figure out where the extra money is coming from.

The frustration can lead to discouragement, and before it does you need to stop and change your perspective. See, when you weren’t writing a budget, things like this would cause your money to invisibly trickle away, leaving you wondering where it went as you reached for your credit card. By becoming intentional with your expenses, you discover these leaks. Take these problems and turn them into opportunities to teach yourself, and your family, better money practices.

November 24, 2010 Posted by | Work and Money | , , , , , | 1 Comment